Two Sides of the Same Coin: different but closely related features of one idea (i.e. Rewards and punishments are two sides of the same coin – both are used to control people, and neither works very well).
Who am I?
I used to know that answer, could relate it in my sleep. I was the opening eight words of my first DiSC personality assessment coaching report… “Marc might be seen as obnoxious by some”.
I didn’t have to read the report any further. 32 letters that I believed captured my life in a nutshell. The report was supposed to show me my “work style”, but another series of graphs showed that my work style was exactly like my natural style. And not surprisingly, I reveled in it. Thought it was a “positive” characterization of my personality, my view on life. My “D” was so strong (my DiSC “Type”) that I was used an an “unhealthy” example by the consultant hired to work with my team.
A “D” often shares characteristics like these:
- You enjoy solving problems, getting things done, and achieving goals.
- You want to be in charge. (You dislike being told what to do).
- You set high standards for performance (your own and other people’s).
- You trust your ability to produce results.
- You enjoy challenges and competition.
- You are willing to take risks, challenge the status quo, and break the rules.
- You make decisions quickly.
- You are impatient with people who “waste time” by talking or planning, who you think are incompetent, or who resist change.
- You don’t mind telling people they’re wrong. You value “telling it like it is.” You can be blunt.
- You bore easily.
- You get angry quickly (and you get over it quickly).
That’s the person I was “proud” to be, and that was the positive side of the write-up.
Here’s the flip-side of the same coin.
- Be blunt to the point of being rude. Like a tank, you run over people’s feelings.
- Be hypercritical, demanding, and short-tempered.
- Make rash and reckless decisions.
- Explode when you don’t get your way.
At my worse, I was a bully, a loud mouth, a tyrant.
Looking back, my “coin” was worth less than I thought it was… in fact, during a tough last few years, I now see that my “D” personality was a direct result of me feeling worthless.
Who Am I?
In the last year, I’ve received some wonderful feedback from an ever-growing group of people I truly love.
“You bless me so richly. Thank you for giving me a piece of your heart”
“You are the awesomest man I have ever met”
“You have such an amazing capacity to love. You are one of the most authentic people I know. You are a gift to the world”
“You are a powerful leader. Thanks for taking a stand for yourself so that you shine on others and teach them how to live vibrantly”
And from my dear wonderful beautiful Carla… “Thanks for giving me the gift of you“. A new eight words… another side of the coin.
The Third Side of the Same Coin.
Who Am I?
A friend posted this on Facebook this morning:
There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh., forget the negative, and focus on the positive. Love all people and pray for the ones who don’t treat you right. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting up is living.
I am a man who loves himself, but is working every day to “like himself”.
I am a man who realizes that he is not a “High D”, but often still act like one.
I am a man who creates drama, but knows he can’t just walk away from himself.
I am a man who has surrounded himself with people that make him laugh.
I am a man who prays for people that don’t treat him right.
I am a man who falls down.
I am a man who gets back up.
I am a good man.
I am a man.
I am VIA.
I am.
My name is Marc Drizin. This is the man I am today.
